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"Apologies aren't made to change the past, but to change the future."
When I was growing up, every time I used to carry my sister's toy or call my brother's name, my mother would hold me by the wrist and demand that I apologize. What's more, if the apology wasn't meaningful enough for him, I had to repeat it until my tone was genuine. Forgiveness was the original response to any mistake.
Now that I have aged, I only apologize as a domestic rule. My younger self did not understand the complexities of human pride and self-righteousness, but my old self.
Now, I see family members refusing to talk to each other for years after an argument because neither side wants them to let go of their pride and "apologize and apologize." But whose decision to apologize was a sign of mere weakness?
I think we have reached a day and age where showing emotional vulnerability can be seen as positive rather than negative quality.
People are becoming more aware of ideas like empathy and sensibility, and everywhere we are being encouraged to talk about our feelings, seek help, and connect with others. Gone are the days of keeping everything bottled up inside to keep everything alone.
As we move forward in this time of self-knowledge and self-discovery, it is important to gain the ability to recognize our mistakes. No person is perfect, and we all will do something to hurt another person at some point in our lives. However, the difference acknowledges that we have done something wrong.
It was difficult for me because I was taught that forgiveness should be an automatic response.
It took me a long time to realize what it means to say "I'm sorry" by heart. It is pointless to apologize, just to apologize. If we cannot accept ourselves that we have made a mistake, we cannot apologize.
This is where humility comes. Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and say that it was at least partly our fault? Can we take that responsibility?
It is easy to blame someone else. It is easy to make excuses and tease the subject. However, having the full weight of blame on our own shoulders is very difficult.
I learned this the hard way with a childhood friend. As we grew older, we became more competitive in the work we did together, and eventually, the fickle competition went a little far.
It quietly became a game of trying to prove who was better, and we hurt each other on our pride.
We refused to apologize or even address because what was going on, neither wanted to be in "give".
The tension kept growing, our friendship broke up. I wish I could go back now because if I had taken responsibility for my mistakes, we could probably solve it easily and save our friendship.
Instead, I let my pride take precedence over my relationships with those around me.
Learning to apologize is the first and the most important step in the healing process. This not only shows the recipient that you accept their right to feel hurt, but it opens the path to forgiveness.
It sounds really silly. I mean, it's just two short words. How can something so small be so powerful?
Well, there have been various scientific studies on the power of apology, which have shown that when the victim receives an apology from his perpetrator, he develops sympathy for the person, who would later develop more quickly in forgiveness. is.
This is due to the fact that when we get forgiveness, we feel that our criminal recognizes our pain and is willing to help us heal.
Keeping in mind time is an important aspect, as well, because sometimes the other person may not be ready to accept your apology. Sometimes we need to give time for the wounds to heal a bit before coming forward to say "excuse me".
An apology cannot undo what has been done, but it can help reduce the pain and subsequent stress. It gives hope for rebuilding and places a value on the relationship rather than the person's pride.
Sometimes people do not even realize the injury arising around them for failing to take responsibility for their actions. Maybe it's you, maybe it's someone you know, but everyone knows someone who suffers from it at some point.
Now is the time for a change.
Often those two simple words are worth more than a lifetime of excuses and explanations.
Choose the way of humility. Choose a healing route. Choose love above pride. Choose to apologize.
Signing Off
Warm Wisher
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